Wednesday, October 3, 2012

O is for Ouch

The people you love the most can hurt you the most. My mom just called. I hadn't talked to her in a long time and had left her several messages on her phone. So when she called me tonight, I was happy to hear from her.
She has been very busy and having a wonderful time. My mom took two weeks off of work for family time. She kept my nephews while my older sister and her husband went to a couple's retreat. Then she drove thirteen hours to see my little sister and her family. Now she is back home and still off of work, just relaxing and spending time with my sister.

I live three hours away. I live on the way home from my little sister's house, if you don't mind driving another hour. I guess that is too much to ask. Thirteen to see one daughter = totally doable. Add one hour to see me = nope.

The knowledge that I am last on my mother's list of favorites is not new to me. I've known this since I was a small child. I can see her point. I mean, my little sister is awesome, and my older sister isn't that bad. But now I realize I'm not even on the list. Like this time; she went way out of her way to visit one daughter and spent days and days taking care of another daughter's children so they could vacation. She couldn't even be bothered to return my calls. Not only am I not on the list of favorites, I'm not even on the to-do list.
I wasn't on Ex's list, either. It hurts to not be on people's lists.


  1. This sucks!! I understand a bit, since I, too, am not on my siblings and parents list as high as their other children and grandchildren.

    I hope that your mother realizes that her actions hurt you at some point and at least acknowledges what she is doing is painful for you.

    Good luck.

    I'm sure you are high on someone's list... even if you don't realize it.

  2. I'm sorry you understand but glad that you do, all at the same time. It's nice to have company.


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